What Are You Looking For?

We've all heard the saying, "Be careful what you wish for." 
Now we should add a new saying: "Be careful what you look for."

'Cause, more than likely, you're gonna find it (or at least think you have).

Looking for evidence that your spouse isn't doing their share? You'll find it.
Looking for proof that your kids are spoiled brats? You'll find it.
Looking for documentation that your boss is a jerk? You'll find that too.

You can find "evidence" to support just about anything if you believe it and ask yourself questions that support that belief. Or, you can choose to ask yourself questions about whether that belief is accurate in the first place.

Next time you face a challenge, instead of drumming up reasons why those around you are subpar, ask yourself these five problem-solving questions suggested by Tony Robbins:

- What is great about this problem?
- What is not perfect yet?
- What am I willing to do to make it the way I want it?
- What am I no longer willing to do?
- How can I enjoy the process?

I've been using this approach for two days, but it's already made a huge impact on the way I think, and thus the way I feel.  I'm learning there's tremendous power in the questions we ask ourselves. The best achievers train themselves to ask the most empowering and insightful questions and leave the rest out of their mind.